How to love yourself?

How to love yourself?

 Learn to Love Yourself۔

I'm sure you read this sentence many times: you need to love yourself first.

But what does that mean? Is it about getting hot chocolate when you're cold? Is it about getting a new dress if you like it? Does it do whatever you want it to do when you want it to? Is it about wearing warm clothes when it's cold outside?

Self-love means learning to treat others the way a loving parent would treat a child.

When you are an adult, and I think you are, you still have the Inner Child within you. These are your feelings.At this point you are acting like a little kid.. Your emotions cannot age or mature. But you can be mature. You can learn how to maintain self-respect and how to deal with them. You can learn how to take care of this inner child.

If you do not know your Inner Child, you are trying to live in an adult world as a 4 year old boy or girl. You feel alone, afraid of the great evil world out there, you do not know what to do, you can ask for help, how to protect you. This is the hardest way to do it. You will always feel fear, panic, doubt, fatigue. It is difficult to try to live as a child in an old world. You will feel angry and scared most of the time, and you will lose

Why is that?

 Because no one cares for that Baby inside of you.Suppose your name is honey. She is 42 years old. Inside sits little . You have. When you are busy in a foreign country caring for other people, business people, traveling, doing a thousand things every day, little honey will feel neglected. When you are constantly running to help others, to make sure their needs are met, you will get tired every night and cry in your bed. Sometimes you will get upset. You will feel very angry for no reason (but there is still one, big one!).

All of these  feelings are an attempt by your inner child to get your attention.

Imagine you have, besides your children, a husband, colleagues, parents, friends, and a four-year-old girl named honey. No one paid any attention to him. No one cares. Whenever he tries to tell you something and you get his attention, you shout at him “Shut up!”. “I have to care for my parents, my job, my husband, my books, my friends, my other children, my house… I don't have time for you!”

How do you think you would feel? What do you think he will do?

First he will try to get your attention by showing great emotion. He'll cry out loud, shout and shout, maybe get angry at times. You think you are angry with the outside world, but Your Inner is angry with you! She is upset and angry because you do not care about her! He pretends not to be! There is nothing worse than pretending that our Inner Child does not exist. This means trying to live as if we are NOT.

The worst feeling in the world is personal infidelity. There is nothing worse than that!

How often do we overlook this golden stream to the well, to the delight of someone else? How many times have we said to our Inner Child “Shut up you are not important, someone is more important than you, go away, I don't want to hear you, I don't want to see you. ”? Awful isn't it? And we do it every time we allow someone else's desire to come before us.https://infomationzon.blogspot.com/

This little honey inside, what are you going to do? You will give up after a while. After a long struggle to express his feelings, he will stop. You will get tired of all this and say: “It doesn't matter, she doesn't love me, she doesn't want to take care of me, I don't deserve it”, and you will find out. depressed.

You would probably think that you are depressed because of others, because of your job, because of your children, because of your husband or your parents.

It is not man's fault. But you must learn to take care of this Inner Child who suffers from your neglect.

There, after experiencing stress before things change, there is one weapon left to catch your attention: little honey will get sick. Or he will get into an accident. Perhaps that is how old honey will learn to give care to her ultimate Inner Child, which is true (if not all) as a real child of flesh and blood.

You need to learn how to be a loving parent yourself.

What does that mean?

First you need to develop the Inner Mother. If you are lucky and have a loving mother, you can take her as an example. Other than that you need to establish, to create this Inner Mother, which is your ability to care for women. Whenever you have feelings, your Inner Mother should ask your Inner Child: “What is going on, my dear?” Listen to what your child has to say. Instead of continuing the conversation. “Come here,” said the mother inside. Come into my hands, I love you as you are. I love you for the way you feel. ”

By doing so, the emotional stress will be greatly reduced. Then say the words: "I understand". These words are very important, because most of the time we don’t feel very “normal” to have the feelings we have and we try to ignore or suppress them, which makes it harder. "I hear you, my love. Come here to your mother's arms, I love you."Sit with these words and feelings for a moment, then ask:

 "What do you need?"

No matter what the Child answers, you say: "We will ask this of your Father".And here you begin the work of your Inner Father, which is there to protect you and for you in the outside world. You would never send a four-year-old to ask for a raise or to settle a dispute at school or with a neighbor, would you? So why are you trying? Send your Inner Father to take care of anything you can do in the outside world. Your Inner Father is your masculine power, enabling you to make decisions, take action, follow your inner direction (found in you Inner Child, also called Intuition) and express your Child's desires to the world.

If your child has a need, for example calling someone or going somewhere to plan something, imagine that your Internal Child lives at home with a mother who cares for her feelings (“I understand you are scared”) and that your Internal Father (another part of your identity) goes out to take action. Your Inner Father is the part of you that is able to deal with pressure, action, conflict planning and all other things related to the outside world. If that part is missing because you did not have a good model when you were younger yourself, you will need to create and improve it.

Surely your Inner Child, Mother and Father are a part of you. It's all up to you. It is just an example of understanding what is going on inside you and how you can learn to love yourself.

Self-love is listening to your Inner Child, taking his or her feelings seriously, understanding what he or she is feeling and taking action the way you want. Self-love is having this conversation with you every morning when you open your eyes, every evening when you go to bed, and every time you feel it.

Loving yourself builds a strong inner connection with you.

You have created your own loving family, within you. You will never be alone again. You already have three! Call it your Trinity. Wherever you go, from now on you travel with your Inner Family. You are not alone. You are loved and protected. You listen to and care for that precious little Child who has been waiting for you to receive your attention and love .https://infomationzon.blogspot.com/