How to train young children?

Children from 0 to 7 years old are in a painting stage. It is like plain pepper whatever is written on it. It becomes part of permanent memory over time.And this data baby uses all his life. That is, the child's personality is complete; he uses this base all his life. If there is any shortcoming in the training during this time. So that deficiency or omission does not go away so easily.

This means that childhood habits are remembered for a long time. For example, if a child develops a fear at this age, he does not leave it for the rest of his life. To eliminate it, then you have to undergo regular therapy because they are related to mental health. And if they are not treated, the child will face difficulties for the rest of his life. We take them to the doctor every other third day for physical illness. But they do not give any importance to mental disorder on which the whole personality of the child depends on his mental health. For good training of children what are the factors that we can follow to make them better?

Positive energy.

Whenever you contend with children, do so with positive energy. That is, when children are small, parental quarrels also occur. So it also makes their mood worse. This mood can also be due to older children. If you or your husband is in an angry mood from the outside, if you try to contact with the young child or pick him up, the child will feel your negative energy.

Children always feel positive and negative energy and children always need positive energy. Unknowingly parents are charging their children with negative energy. That is why children are so sick. Apparently the child does not see any disease but still the children look restless and lazy and sick. The biggest reason for this is that they are living in negative states which affect his health.

You may not have thought about the fact that your bad mood affects the health of your child. So whenever you have to meet your child or pick him up, you have to give him a positive charge so that your child can avoid the problems that are caused by your negative energy.

Smiling face.

Whenever you have to meet or pick up your baby, give him a sweet smile The more your laughing image becomes in the child's subconscious, the better for him. And the child will use this image for the rest of his life. If we meet him in anger, he will use it in the same way. Children learn from us. The child is adopting everything very fast. The one you can't even imagine feels every good and bad attitude Even if he is still very young. We think that the child is very young now, he does not know what is happening around him and he does not know what negative and positive thinking is.

The baby learns from the first day of every good and bad thing. He recognizes his mother's lap and private lap from the first day. Your baby is very smart; he can do this because he has been living in his mother's womb for 9 months. He is learning his mother's body temperature and all his habits so as soon as he comes into the world he recognizes his mother. Children are very sharp minded. It is we who train him wrong and make it a dull mind. Make it a rule that whenever you see them, you will see them with a smiley face.

Negative sentence.

Never use a negative sentence with children, do not say a word to them. Don't do it, don't go there, don't eat it, etc.Babies from 0 to 9 months do not do anything that you do not have to tell them. When children older than that age start walking, then we stop them with different things. Never want to use the word no, but replace the word no with another word, that is, if you want to stop him from doing something, then instead of stopping the child from doing that, focus on someone else and don't tell him that you It shouldn't work, but tell him to do it. Give them a new command and don't say them a word ‘NO’

For example, someone has kept valuables. The child does not know the value of it. You feel that He seems to be spoiling it. You told him don’t go, he is very precious, and he will be spoiled. don't do that but divert his attention to other work, when we stop children from anything, he doesn't pay much attention to this thing, but When we forbid it, its attraction to it increases. Don't get your children into the habit of saying no, but tell them what to do.

Shouting.

A child should never be shouted at. In this world, a person is born with only two fears. One is the loud noise and the other is the fear of falling from a height.

When we speak loudly and shout, the child's five senses freeze, and when the child freezes, we assume that he has obeyed us and we are happy, and then we adopt the same attitude. He does not believe in us, but is frightened by fear. What will a frightened person do when he grows up? A child who grows up with fear and dread will lose his self-confidence. He should think negatively about himself. The fear of failure will soon come. He will be afraid of everyone. In fear and a shock what can be the future of a child? How will he live a successful life? So never try to scare the child with your voice.

Respect.

Another disadvantage is when you talk out loud. As soon as the child is a little older, he will start talking out loud. The parents complain that the child has become rude. They shout at us. If you don't believe, first think that you thought of this thing. When you don't respect the child, the child will not respect you either. He thinks it's a way to get his point across, so he learns it from you and applies it to you.All the respect you give to your child in childhood will be returned to you.

Because he learns it himself and then applies this formula to you. The way you treat him, he will give you back the same way, but he will give more than that. If you don't give him respect then he will get out of your hands till the teenage. And then all your efforts will be in vain to fix it. so respect it.

Body posture.

Just as children learn from our loud voices, so they learn from our body posture. If our impressions are always negative, there will always be angry children who are taking note of all our impressions. Always be happy with the child. When the father comes from outside, he also meets the child in a good mood. If you can't do that, then you stay outside and until your mood is fine. And if the mother has a problem with something or because of the older child So don't scold the elder child in the presence of the younger child because he is learning all this.

Mobile Phone.

The biggest mistake we make in training a child is that you are busy with something and if the child says something to you or asks for something, you put it on your mobile to get rid of it. From there, children can see a lot of new things. In the past, they only saw their mother, but now they see a lot more on their mobile phones. Other people, Different games etc. And there comes a time when they are more interested in mobile than mother.

They don't want mother anymore. The damage is great. Children's habits deteriorate. They have a bad effect on their minds. It is like an addiction and if the addiction is not satisfied, it makes a lot of noise. And you give him a mobile phone to silence him and he gets addicted day by day and then he can't get out of it.

The tendency towards religion.

As Muslims, we should teach our children about Allah and His Messenger teach them about Adhkar and get them in the habit of following the rules. Put the recitation near the little child's ear.

So that the sound of the surah enters his mind and he becomes accustomed to these things from his childhood and becomes close to Allah. If we do not tell the children about these things from the beginning, then by the age of 14 or 15 they will get used to other things and they will never return to their religion because they have never heard of their religion so they are unaware of it.

Blessed is the name of Allah blessed are the words of Allah. So you have to make a schedule to recite it for 5 or 10 minutes a day. He doesn't know it yet, but when he comes to his senses, he will know that he already knows it all.

Sleep.

A young child needs at least 12 to 14 hours of sleep.Otherwise the children get irritated. We think that there is a problem in our child. They will get sick. The children keep crying. The reason is that you are not taking care of their sleep. We gave them a mobile phone. And there is so much on TV that they have no timing to go to sleep and wake up, they have no eating routine and then we say that the children are sick.

Getting used to children.

Young children become accustomed to any task immediately. Do not do anything with them that they have become accustomed to. For example, they take the child outside and then take him on the second day and on the third day. Even babies get used to it and the baby starts to see your face at the same time the next day and he insists on doing his job if it is not done then he starts crying.

Anyone will work with him constantly later the child will have a problem with it and later it will not be a daily thing. Then when the child has a heart he will be stubborn. He has to do his job. In any case, he will get up in the middle of the night and sit down. Doing things that you can't afford to do that don't get you into trouble. Don't get your children into the habit at an early age.

Don't instill these habits in a child from 0 to 2 or 3 years old so don't make it pattern. Once a child has a pattern in his mind, he has a problem. Both for the baby and for you. The disadvantage of this is that first he will fall behind one person and later he will fall behind everyone. In the same way, he also gets used to mobile. Whenever he sees someone's hand, he is stubborn.

Correct pronunciation.

Always talk to children in the correct pronunciation and in the right way because the child is learning everything by watching you, so the way we talk to the child, he will learn. All the words are going into his subconscious. Then when he grows up he sees in books that these words are not like that He cannot delete the words he has learned from his mind. It becomes very difficult for him to learn new words. He has to work hard but he does not understand anything.

Language.

Many people do not care about language in front of children. They think they are too young to use dirty language. They also give abuses. Children are learning all this, so pay special attention to the conversation in front of the children. Know him as a complete personality. Don't think that he is still a child.

For example, when the computer was new to the world, you didn't even see it before. When you saw it, you thought you didn't know what it was. It's like a TV. You don't know how it works. But you kept coming and going Then someone told you that this is a computer 2 or 3 years later, then you will immediately say that it is a computer, yes, I have seen it, many times it means you did not know it, but in your mind it detta save was As soon as you understood it meaning after two years you remembered that it is a computer you already knew it.

In the same way, children do not know what it is, but as they grow up, they understand the meaning of this thing; they know that they have been watching it since childhood, but now they have understood the meaning.

Your children are a complete personality. You should take care of these things in their training so that they become masters of a successful personality.