The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong

The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong

The Secret of Mental Power.

An inspiring story of a strong woman. which will bring brightness to your life.

so i have a Facebook friend whose life looks perfect. she lives in a nice house, and she has a very rewarding career. and she and her family go to all these fun events to gather on the weekends.

 And I swear they have to take a professional photographer with them. Because no matter where they go or what they do, the whole family looks just fine. And she always writes down how blessed she is and how grateful she is for the life she has. And I have a feeling, he doesn't just say those things because of the Facebook book, but he really says it.

How many of you have a friend, that kind. And sometimes people don't like that person. We all do this well, it's hard not to do it. But that way of thinking, we call it something. And this is what I want to talk to you about today is our bad habits, Maybe you browse through your Face book feed and think so, what if I roll my eyes. Just five seconds of my time. How could it hurt me?

Yes, researchers have found that craving your friends on the Facebook page actually leads to it disappointment. That is one of the traps that our minds can set. Have you ever complained about your boss or looked at the lives of your friends and thought, why are they all so lucky it would not help to think that way properly. That way of thinking, it seems small at the moment. In fact, it can make you feel better right now.

 But that thinking consumes your mind, and there are three kinds of harmful beliefs that can weaken our ability to think and reason.

  The first is an unhealthy belief about us.

 We often feel sorry for ourselves. And while it is good to be sad when something bad happens, self-pity goes away when you start to increase your misfortune. When you think of things like why these things always happen to me? I don't have to deal with it. That mental attitude keeps you attached, keeps you focused on the problem, keeps you imperfect, in finding a solution. And even if you can't create a solution you can always take steps to make your life or someone else's life better, but you can't do that when you're busy, holding your sympathy party.

The second misconception is that we misunderstand others. 

 We think that other people can control us, and we give our best. But as adults living in a free world.Few things in life you should do. So when you say I have to work late, you give me your energy. Yes, there will probably be consequences if you do not work late, but it is still a choice, or if you say, my mother-in-law is driving me crazy.You unleash your power. Maybe he's not the best person in the world, but it's up to you how you respond to him because he controls you.

  The third misconception is that we misunderstand the world.

We often think that the world is indebted to us, we think that if I work hard I deserve success,But to expect success in kindness as some kind of global reward would be disappointing, but I know it's hard to stop our bad mental habits. It is difficult to get rid of those unhealthy beliefs that we have been going through for so long that you will not be able to get rid of them, because sooner or later, you will lose time in your life when they need all the mental energy you can get.

When I was 23 years old. I thought I had thought it all my life. I graduated from elementary school; I got my first big job as a therapist. I got married, and I even bought a house, and I thought this would be great; I have a good start to my career.

 What could go wrong. That all changed for me one day, when I received a call from my sister. He said our mother was found unresponsive, and was taken to hospital.My husband, Lincoln, and I got in the car and rushed to the hospital. We couldn't figure out what was wrong. My mother was only 51 years old and had no history of any health problems. When we When I got to the hospital, the doctors explained, he was going to have a brain aneurysm. And within 24 hours. My mother, who used to wake up in the morning saying she had tarnished the data on live has died.

 The news was devastating, and my mother and I were very close. As a therapist, and you want to be at the psychological level, how you can go through grief, but knowing and doing it can be two very different things took a long time before I felt like I was really recovering.

 And then on the day of the three-year anniversary of my mother's death. Some friends called and invited Lincoln to me for a basketball game. Coincidentally, he was being played in the same hall. Learn to last see mom the night before she passed away. I didn't go back there because I wasn't even sure I wanted to go back. But Lincoln and I talked about it. And finally we said, Maybe that would be a good way to honor his memory.

  So we went to the game. We had a wonderful time with our friends going home by car that night and talked about how good it was to finally get back to that place. And remember my mother smiling, than all those feelings of sadness. Shortly after arriving home that night. Lincoln said he was not feeling well. After a few minutes, he fainted. I had to call an ambulance.

Her family met me in the emergency room. We waited for what seemed like it, until the doctor came, but instead of taking us back to see Lincoln. He took us back to the private room, sat us down, and explained that Lincoln, the most beautiful person I have ever met, is no more. We didn't know at the    time but he had a heart attack. He was only 26 years old. He had no history of heart problems.So now I have a 26-year-old widow, and I have no mother. How do I get past this? And to describe that as a painful time in my life sounds like disrespect. And it was then that I realized that you are facing difficult times, good enough habits take one or two small habits to stop it. I have worked as hard as I can, not just to create good habits in my life but to get rid of those little habits, no matter how small they may seem.

Through it all, it brought hope that one day life would be better. And at last down the road I met Steve and fell in love. And I remarried. We sold the house we shared with Lincoln, bought a new house in anew location, got a new job, but almost immediately breathed a sigh of relief at the new start I had.

 We received news that Steve's father had chronic cancer. And I began to think about why these things should always happen. Why should I continue to lose all my loved ones? This is incorrect. But if I have learned anything. It was as if that thinking would slow me down. I knew I would need as much mental energy as possible, in order to gain a single loss.

So I sat down and made a list of all the things that mentally strong people do not do. And I read that list, it was a reminder of all those bad habits that I did at the same time, that would keep me hooked. And I kept reading that list over and over, and I really needed it, because within a few weeks I was writing it.

 Steve's father has passed away. My journey has taught me the secret of being mentally strong. That you have to get rid of your bad mental habits, mental strength is like physical strength.If you want to be physically fit, you will need to go to the gym and lift weights. But if you really want to see the results you will also need to stop eating junk food, mental strength is the same if you want to be mentally strong. You need good manners like practice giving thanks. You should also get rid of bad habits like being angry at someone else's success no matter how many times that happens, it will slow you down

 So, how do you train your brain to think differently, how do you stop those bad mental habits that you have gone through. First of all, I challenged those unhealthy beliefs I talked about and healthy ones. For example, unhealthy beliefs about us are very common because we are not happy with our feelings, we feel sad or hurt or angry or scared. Those things are not free. So we do everything we can to avoid that discomfort. We try to avoid them by doing things like holding a sympathetic party.

 And even though that is a temporary setback. It just adds to the pain. The only way to get rid of uncomfortable feelings, which is the only way to deal with them, is to go through them in order to feel sad and to develop confidence in your ability to cope. Unhealthy beliefs about others arise because we compare ourselves with other people.

 We think they are above us, or below us. We think that they can control how we feel, or that we can control their behavior or blame them for holding us back. But really, it’s our choice that does that. You have to accept that you are your own person and that other people are different from you.

 The only person you have to compare yourself with is yesterday and unhealthy beliefs about the world happen because deep down, we want the world to be good, we don't want to think that if we put in enough jobs, and good things will happen to us, But in the end, you have to accept that life is not good. And that can be liberating. It means you will not be rewarded for your righteousness, but it also means no matter how much you suffer.

The world doesn't work that way. Your world is what you do. However, before you can change your world, you must believe that you can change it.

  And he once worked on this man, who had been diabetic for years. Her doctor referred her to treatment, because she had bad mental habits that were beginning to affect her physical health. Her mother died of diabetes at an early age, so she just believed that she would be abandoned. And he had stopped trying to control his blood sugar completely. In fact, his blood sugar level had soared recently, that it began to affect his vision, and his driver's license was revoked, and his country declined.

 When he come to me he was clear.. He knew all the things he could do to manage his blood sugar. He did not think that it was worth the effort. But he finally agreed to make one small change. He said I would sacrifice my two liters a day for the Pepsi habit. And I will sell it to Diet Pepsi. And he couldn't believe how fast his numbers were starting to rise. And even though he came in every week it would remind me how bad Diet Pepsi tasted so bad. He stuck to it.

And when he starts to see little progress I can probably check out some of my habits. He said I could trade in my night ice cream cone for a low-sugar drink. One day while out shopping with some friends, he was struck by an old bicycle. He bought it for a few dollars and brought it home and parked it in front of his TV. And he started stepping on it, while we watched some of his favorite shows every night.

 And he didn't just lose weight. But one day, he realized that he could see the TV, clearly a little more clearly than before. Suddenly it happened to him. Perhaps the damage done to his appearance was not permanent. We have therefore set ourselves a new goal of obtaining his driver's license. And from that day on, he was on fire.

At the end of our time together, she would come in every week and say, OK, what are we going to do this week, because she finally believes she can change her world, and that she has the mental power to change it. And he could stop his bad mental habits. And it all started, which is one small step.

So consider what bad mental habits are holding you back. Yes, unhealthy beliefs make you as mentally weak as possible. And what one little step you can take today. Right here, right now. Thank you.